Dealing with Disappointment
So, You Didn’t Get the Role You Really Wanted – Now What?
The audition process is both exciting and challenging right up to the point where you find out which role the Casting Director offers you. But what if it’s not the role you hoped it would be? Here are a few tips on what to do (and what not to do) when you find out you did not get the role you wanted.
1. Don’t compare yourself with, or criticize, the actor who got the role you wanted. Jealousy is toxic and will not change the circumstances or help you grow as an actor.
2. Do give yourself permission to feel disappointed! Discuss what happened and how it makes you feel with your family or journal about it. Processing your feelings will help you move on from the disappointment and grow from it. Just remember to keep the focus on you: How did you feel in the audition? What are your strengths? Where is there room for you to improve?
3. Don’t be discouraged. Remember, there are other factors besides your ability that influenced the casting director’s decision. Some of these things, like your age, height, and vocal tone, aren’t in your control.
4. Don’t underestimate your role. “One of the things we say in the performance industry is, Don’t judge the character, because then you don’t bring all of yourself to it’,” says Innovative Arts Executive Director, Sophie Lea McLeod. “When we create a show, we mold each part with detail, so all are valuable to the production’s success. There are only 15 roles in our shows, so everyone really does have the opportunity to shine.” No matter what role you are given, remember that it is an important and challenging one that only you can bring to life!
5. Do get excited about your character and make them come to life in a way no one has seen before. Create a backstory and personality description for your character so they are more real to you.
Try your best to move forward with an enthusiastic attitude that will allow you to bring the best version of your character to the performance. The good news is, regardless of the role you play, you get to do what you love and will feel a great sense of accomplishment at the end of the season!
Most importantly, remember that performing is something you do, but it is not who you are. No matter what role you play, you are Innovative and amazing!
